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Comment on Wee Regrets by L.V.Newc

L.V.Newc — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 01:46:03 +0000

Boy howdy does this resonate with me (I literally found myself nodding along to this post, especially when you mentioned worrying ABOUT how much you worry, and also feeling guilty over something that happened years ago). I spend so much time thinking to myself “You worry too much. Your mental health would be so much better if you didn’t worry so much. You would feel better physically, too, if you stopped worrying all the time. You’re letting down your own values of faith and calm by worrying like this. It’s really terrible how much you worry…”– to the point that I feel like maybe the most deleterious aspect of being a worry-wart is the worrying about the worrying (what a phrase, ha).

Does this mean it would be “better” if I could just ACCEPT my worrying? It would certainly free up at least some emotional space and energy– to say, “Yep, I’m worrying again. It’s what I do.” I feel like I could rob the worries of some of their power, in that way– because worries LOVE to hide out on the back-burner, just breathing hot steam even after the stove has been turned off, ready to burn if you get too close. So would acknowledging that worry– “I see you, worry about X. I know that you’re there. I see you, and I accept you, because I know that it is in my nature to worry. And now if you’ll excuse me, I am going to continue with my day.”

I’m coming to this idea as I type, so I’ve never tried this. But I would be curious to know what you think of the idea, or if you’ve tried any other “strategies” for navigating the stomach flips and flops of worrying.

Thanks for your post!

Comment on Wee Regrets by Katie

Katie — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 03:56:50 +0000

Ugh, I shouldn’t comment using my phone. I found the quotation HELPFUL, SO I put the book on my list

Comment on Wee Regrets by Katie

Katie — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 03:55:18 +0000

Have you read Mary Daly’s “Pure Lust”? I was just reading another book quoting it, in particular her theory about natural passions vs. pseudo passions, two of which are guilt and worry. As a worrier myself I found the quoting/paraphrasing in the book I read today, do I put “Pure Lust” on my list to delve deeper into the theory.

Comment on Shopping for Doctors by maggiemunkee

maggiemunkee — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 16:51:32 +0000

i highly recommend finding a doctor that is part of the “ideal medical practice” movement. check out impcenter.org (i think it’s a .org, but i might be wrong. it’s the first google result).

my primary care doctor does this, and she is PHENOMENAL. she handles everything, save an assistant who comes in for a few hours a week to help with billing. no secretaries, no pharmaceutical reps, just the doctor. all calls go to her cell phone.

i can’t recommend this kind of practice enough.

Comment on Shopping for Doctors by DraftQueen (Jill)

DraftQueen (Jill) — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 02:09:17 +0000

There is no excuse for no call back from a dr.

Sounds like you may have found a good fit for a dr, though.

Comment on Being a TCK by Ann

Ann — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:55:45 +0000

Holy Crap!! this is the best description I have ever heard of me and all my air force brat friends! I spent most of my childhood moving around to various countries and felt the most culture shock when we moved to the US (my place of birth!) Amen to the independent streak in all of us!

Comment on Shopping for Doctors by Katie

Katie — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 04:36:48 +0000

I agree that’s negligence! Wow! So not okay.

I’m glad you had a good experience with a new doc! I was so relieved to find one I liked at the Polyclinic

Comment on You forgot the disclaimer… by Mulberry

Mulberry — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:31:30 +0000

Even so, I still prefer being an adult. My memory is not so bad that I can’t remember the utter powerlessness of youth. I don’t remember any get-out-of-jail-free card. There are a lot more things you can do and demand as an adult. And when you earn money, you have more say in how it is spent.
Yes, adulthood has its problems, but I’ll take it over being a kid any day.

Comment on Retail Therapy by TeacherMommy

TeacherMommy — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 11:48:09 +0000

Also my failing. SIGH.

Comment on You forgot the disclaimer… by TeacherMommy

TeacherMommy — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 11:46:57 +0000

I KNOW.

Yesterday I got all weepy for no really good reason–yes, I know there’s the funeral on Saturday and I know that’s affecting me more than I necessarily realize, but STILL–and then there was all the horribleness of DramaBoy that I told you about and MTL had a horrible day at work and so he is taking a mental health day and I NEED A MENTAL HEALTH DAY but I can’t really take one right now and…

Yeah. Being an adult is WAY overrated.

There are some compensations, though. I’m going to focus on that now.