Comments on: My Husband Says, “Get Some Perspective”

By: tantekoo

tantekoo — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:09:06 +0000

Huh.

I’ve read the controversy, the commentary, and the responses, and all I can really say is this:

Someone with as much privilege as stated certainly has the ability to do their own work when it comes to the question of, “What can I do to change/help?”

By: JennyRose

JennyRose — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 14:27:10 +0000

Thanks Heidi. I enjoyed the contemplative nature of your post. I have lurked here for some time and will post more in the future.

A mentor once told me that clear writing starts with clear thinking. I find your writing and thinking to be very clear. I haven’t figured everything out yet so my writing may be less clear. I also tend to be more practical than ideological. I have core beliefs but dogma doesn’t interest me in any area of my life.

The best thing to come out of all of this privilege upset for me is that I have discovered many wonderful FA sites and a diversity of opinions.

By: heidi

heidi — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:11:47 +0000

I skim a lot of ZC posts…but then, that’s true for most posts on the Fatosphere feed. I think my general opinion of most blogs is that if they don’t interest me, I don’t read them. Period. I probably would never even have read Bianca’s post if it hadn’t been for Marianne’s reply and the way that seemed to me to be an overboard response to what really, in the end, was a “scroll on by, scroll on by” moment.

In my opinion, anyway.

Sylvia’s made some very sweet, supportive comments here and so I’m willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. Certainly the bigwigs of mainstream FA have never taken the time (for a myriad of reasons, yes, I’m not claiming otherwise!) to comment on my blog, so if I find someone friendly, I’m going to at least try to defend them insofar as I can, which in this instance meant not defending Bianca’s post so much as explaining how I’d read it and how I didn’t feel that the language used to describe her was a proportional response.

I think you pick and choose what’s important to you and which blogs you find most readable. That’s the joy of having so many to choose from.

By: JenK

JenK — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:05:08 +0000

Rachel -

Delurking to say I know that many of their posts come off to me as garbled, snarky and dismissive. At first I wanted to extend them the benefit of the doubt, but what they write hasn’t improved, and I got frustrated enough I quit reading them a while back.

Thing is, that kind of frustration build-up can lead to a “this is the last straw!” reaction instead of a “hm, here’s what I think” comment.

I did find the bellies posts were cute and funny. Most any post where they’re doing minimal writing and posting pictures works for me. Maybe I may need to reset my “TL; DR” counter for them to be about a paragraph?

By: Steph

Steph — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:00:11 +0000

Yay! I like your point- FA is about ACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE. No matter what size, no matter what issues you have, no matter if you’re a “good” or “bad fat, liberal or republican or whatever, to me FA is about getting out of the habit of beating yourself up. To stop comparing yourself to that thin woman or that fat woman and just be happy being you. Women (and men!) in America and all over the world do way too much of that. And its so annoying and counter-productive. FA has helped me to stop all that, well, at least get rid of most of it. So yay for FA! And yay for you!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:05:18 +0000

Yes, exactly! You’ve touched on all the points that I think so many people in the f-sphere are forgetting.

The most important point being; NO ONE INTENDED TO INSULT ANYONE. So why all the upset? *sigh*